Feedback loops are a lot of fun. They happen all the time in nature, and when you can create them on purpose, they’ll give you a lot of power.
When I was a kid, my dad bought a video camera.
I hooked it into the TV, and then while displaying the output on the TV, I shot the TV.
The effect was a TV screen showing a movie of a TV screen, which was showing a movie of a TV screen, on into infinity.
Of course, my dad was pissed, Webbing Tourniquet and was worried I was going to break his camera, so I stopped.
Feedback loops happen quite a lot when you’ve got systems of interdependent variables.
Nowhere is this more evident than in human relationships and interactions.
The way society at large treats you will affect your mood, beliefs, and behaviors. Your mood, beliefs, and behaviors will in turn have an impact on how society treats you.
If you’ve ever been in a slump, you know this. You try and smile or talk to girls, and the first couple blow you off. This changes your mood, so you’re no longer so chipper and happy. Pretty soon you’ve got a scowl on your face, and everybody you approach, girls and guys alike, flee in terror as you’ve now got the vibe of a psycho killer.
On the other hand, if you leave the house in a good mood, and the first couple of girls you talk to respond positively, this brightens your mood, making every successive interaction much more likely to end in a positive out come.
The first situation sucks. The second situation is awesome. You’re on. In the flow. Can’t miss.
Most guys assume that whether they’re “on” or “off” is based on some kind of randomness that is completely out of your control.
As Dwight Schrute would say, “False.”
The truth is that it’s your interpretation that sets your mood. And your interpretation is completely and absolutely up to you, and nobody else.
Now, it can be tough to have a positive interpretation when a girl tells you to get lost.
But with practice, you can learn to keep a positive mindset, a positive outlook and rock solid self confidence, so that wonderful, self-fulfilling feedback loop is ALWAYS on, regardless of how girls respond to you.
Naturally, always feeling as if you are in a positive feedback loop will actually CREATE those positive reactions you’re looking for, again and again.